34. Have you been hurt?

Published on 20 February 2023 at 09:48

I have heard a reoccurring theme today. That is, people being hurt by the church. We had previously discussed the importance of church, and surrounding yourself with fellow believers, but we did not talk about the other side of that. What if you have been hurt by the church? As we all know there are many different churches, and denominations. There are places that call themselves churches and speak absolutely zero biblical truth! It breaks my heart as to how many churches are bowing down to the world to appease the people of the world. And changing scripture to fit their wants and needs. We are here to serve ONE GOD!!, Not any one person or group of people!

But now after you search and do your due diligence in finding a church that lines up with biblical truth, you ask questions of areas you are unsure of, and you get your foot in the door, now you have to find a way to mesh in with the others that attend.

Now I can speak from personal experiences. I too have been hurt by the "church". Now I put quotations around church, for the very fact it was not the actual church that hurt me. But someone within that church. Now the first time this happened, I did not understand it, I was young, and way too young to be dealing with the things that I was dealing with. All I knew was that I was out, and not by my choice, and it hurt. But I moved on, found a new "church" home. I loved it! The pastors were great! The youth group was great! I was getting to know everyone! And then it exploded. I was somehow categorized as a charity case. I was put on a shelf with a big ole label. I could not understand this, I may have been a teenager, but I had a full-time job. I paid my own bills. I was by no means a charity case. But when that big ugly label was thrown in my face in front of a group of people by the leader, I was done. I carried that hurt for a long time. Then I met a man, and we had a baby, (yes out of wedlock). And then all of a sudden, I had this burning inside of me that my children needed to learn about Jesus Christ being their savior. So, we started attending a local church, it was one of those that they called a mega church. It was fine. My kids were learning. My boyfriend (a non-believer) was learning. After a little while my boyfriend got baptized! And that same night, we got engaged! Then we decided to start doing things the right way. So, until the wedding, he moved to the basement, and we continued to grow in our relationship with Christ. And then it blew up... again.

But then I had a real heart to heart with God. All I knew were my experiences. I wanted and I yearned for a deeper connection with God. I needed it. He really spoke to me, that I needed to go to church to learn and grow. Not to go to make someone else happy, or to impress someone else. Or for any other purpose that to worship Him. For people are human. They are going to hurt us. There is just no way around it, but next time- I was to talk about it. Resolve the problem like adults, and forgive each other as we are taught to do, move on, and form those deep connections, and treat these people as your true family. For they are your family in Christ, and they are the ones that you will spend eternity with! It is better to learn how to work with each other on earth, than to get to Heaven and have no clue how to have a healthy relationship.

Yes, there have been bumps in the road. I have wanted to run and hide a couple times. Instead, we have hashed it out, and loved each other through it and moved on. So, what I'm saying is- Stop running! Use your words! Learn and grown from each interaction.

1 Peter 1:22 says, "You were cleansed from your sins when you obeyed the truth, so now you must show sincere love to each other as Brothers and Sisters. Love each other deeply with all your heart."

34. Have you been hurt?

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